If you are in love with a man that blows hot and cold, girl I feel for you. We have all been there. You have this chemistry with a man, it feels returned. Some days are just amazing. Others you don’t even know if he will call or not. Worse, you wonder if you don’t call him, would you even hear from him or not? It’s a emotional roller coaster that is for sure.
Why do men blow hot and cold? Is he moody? Is it that he loves you but he just hasn’t realized it yet. This is what I see a lot. Women staying with this up and down man hoping he will realize that one day he loves her and begins to stop the nonsense back and forth stuff. Many women even attempt to talk to their man about it. Oh this is only going to make it worse, don’t talk about it. Men respond to distance, not words.
If you find yourself saying “but it was so great last time we were together, how can he just shut me out like that” you have one of those men that go from cold to hot. If you find yourself saying “but I love him”, you have even bigger troubles. A man that changes temperatures is not a man in love. A man in love would not dream of putting you through that emotional push pull.
He could be a commitment phobic, he could be emotionally unavailable, but the fact remains, he is what he is, not present in your life like you wished he would be. It’s the hot times that keep you holding on. You think if he could just be like this all the time. If he could just see how much I love him, if this, if that.
The fact of the matter is being in love with a man like this is emotionally exhausting. You hold onto how it was in the beginning and ignore how it is now. Fairy dust will not just sprinkle from the sky and transform the hot and cold man into a great partner. Nothing will transform these men into great partners. You are in love with his potential and focused on what could or should be and not what is.
If he was going to become a great partner, he would have already done so. Men don’t just wake up one day more interested in you or all of a sudden in love. Men to fall in love have to think about you. A hot and cold man doesn’t spend a lot of time thinking about you. Here is a hard truth about these men. His attraction for you is not that strong.
More times than not, men that blow hot and cold may not see you as his dream girl. A man would never blow hot and cold to his dream girl. He might lose her. If he blows hot and cold, you could be just an option for now until someone else comes along. A man who is a good partner would not do this to a woman he truly cares about.